10 Top Tips for managing Sex and Intimacy during the Covid-19 Crisis
In these difficult times we will be looking for ways to make ourselves feel better and that might mean we struggle to engage with negativity from our partner. If we are too quick to encourage them to ‘look on the bright side’ we risk ‘discounting’ their feelings and this can leave them feeling unheard and […]
Let’s Talk… Parenting
Type the words ‘baby, marriage, stress’ into Google and you will find an almost unlimited wealth of information and statistics around why starting a family may be the beginning of the end of your relationship. In fact, research carried out a number of years ago by the Wall Street Journal was even entitled, ‘Here Comes […]
What’s a wedding for? Love, expectations, obstacles and values in a time of Coronavirus.
In a few weeks’ time I will be getting married to my wonderful fiancée Lizzie. When we got engaged last year there was no way we could have predicted the spanner in the works that Coronavirus has been to our wedding plans. In many ways the last few months has been defined by uncertainty. Uncertainty […]
Our Commitment to Forever!
Gill and I will be celebrating 35 years of marriage on the 13th April this year. On that date in 1985 we made a lifelong commitment to each other through our marriage vows, before God and those gathered. We made that commitment as a mixed couple, Gill being English and myself being West Indian, with […]
Reliable Love, Commitment & The Forever Conversation
What everybody forgets about commitment is that you’re not just making one choice. You’re closing the door on all the other choices. Choosing one thing means not being able to choose anything else. That can be a risky step to take. No wonder many of us try to put off commitments for as long as possible. […]
I said yes to forever!
‘The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.’ – Audrey Hepburn. Let me take you back to Summer 2013…I was 16 years old, and having just moved 300 miles away from where I grew up with my family, I was about to start a new school. I was feeling scared and vulnerable; […]
Let’s Talk… Marriage
Marriage is all too often viewed as the end goal of a relationship, the final stage which you cannot progress beyond. This is unhelpful both for those who are married and for those considering marriage. In reality, marriage is perhaps more helpfully viewed as an ongoing journey – something which we continue to work at […]
Let’s Talk… Mental Health
Building a Culture of Intimacy When I got married (two and half years ago) I had my assumptions of what it would look and feel like, but nothing can prepare you for the reality. Every marriage is just as different as the people in it. Matt and I had been dating for 5 years before […]
Let’s Talk… Work
One of the most important conversations couples need to have is around work and personal career ambitions. Life throws different seasons and challenges at us – Covid-19 lockdown being perhaps one of the more extreme examples! Challenging times like these however, offer a golden opportunity to develop the strong bonds that only come from surviving […]
Let’s Talk… Sex & Intimacy
The Art of Good Communication The most important attribute of a good sexual relationship is effective communication. Effective communication is important in all our relationships and particularly with our partners. We want to be known and understood just as we are, warts and all, because this enables us to experience deep emotional intimacy and connection. […]
