Conversation Starters

When you get time together this can often be overrun with talk about the children and work. Whilst these are very important things to communicate about sometimes you just need to talk about the two of you.

Build and strengthen your relationship through conversation, and if you get stuck then how about one of our conversation starters.

We’re grateful to Time for Marriage who have supplied the content for these conversation cards.

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If we could get away just the two of us, where would you like to go? … Realistically? … If money was no object?

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What is your top ‘bucket list’ wish?

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What is your funniest memory from when we were dating?

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Name people you would like to have for dinner? (2 people you don’t know), (2 people you do know) – plan in a date to get them round!

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I used to always wish I could…

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What would make our kids freak out if they knew it about us?

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What is the most scared you have ever been?

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I remember thinking I was brave when I was young because I…

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If you could spend a day just talking to any one person, who would it be and why?

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If you could spend 24 hours doing anything in the world with you, what would it be?

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I like it best when you say…

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The song that always makes me think of you is…

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My sweetest memory of us when we were young is when we…

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My favorite memory of our wedding day is…

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How do you picture our life in ten years? Discuss your similarities and differences when it comes to the future.

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What is the happiest that you’ve ever been?

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I wish I had learned to…

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How would you describe your hero? What heroic qualities do I possess?

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If we won the lottery, what is the first thing you would buy? What would you buy for each other?

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Name something you would like to do, but are scared to try.

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Write down three things that you love the most about your partner. See if they can correctly guess what is on your list .

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Describe a time when you were touched by someone’s kindness. How did it make you feel?

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What was your first impression of your partner? Was it accurate? In what ways has your partner changed?

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What is your most embarrassing moment? Decide whose was worse.

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Describe a significant event that changed you as a person. Was this a good or bad change?

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What is something that you would like to change about yourself? How can you achieve this? How can your partner help?

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What gives you “butterflies?” When was the last time you felt them?

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What kind of things do you consider romantic? Plan a romantic date night together or take turns planning a night out.

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Is the glass half empty or half full? Has your outlook changed over the years?

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What motivates you the most in life?

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When do you last remember laughing with me the most?

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What does the word “affection” mean to you? What does the word “romance” mean to you?

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What’s one time lately that I’ve made you feel great about yourself? How can I do that more often?

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What’s a favorite memory from when we were dating? What made it so fun?

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What was a time your mom really messed up with talking to you or punishing you when you were a kid?

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What was a time when your dad really messed up with talking to you or punishing you when you were a kid?

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What’s something you never confessed to your parents until much later–that you laugh about now?

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What song from the radio did you just HATE when you were in your early teens? Why?

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What movie did you see when you were really too young to watch it?

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Who was your best friend when you were 9? Do you know what happened to him/her?

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Who was your favorite teacher? What did you like about him or her?

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What was your favorite toy as a kid that kids don’t really play with now?

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If you felt comfortable saying anything you wanted to your parents, what would it be?

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Who is your favorite relative from my side of the family?

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Is there someone in our family we need to be supporting more? How can we do that?

We are grateful to Time for Marriage who supplied the content of these Conversation Cards.